500+500 miles

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I told my husband recently of how I wished I had met him sooner, rather than in our late 20s. He smiled and said that I wouldn’t have noticed him back then. Hmm, I should be the judge of that I think. I then wondered whether he would have fancied me had we met a decade earlier. He said yes, without a doubt. He said he would have taken me away and hid me from the rest of the world! I thought he did that anyway! :) My hubby is funny like that, he makes me smile. On days when I feel a bit down, I think of him and his sweet words and I feel cheered. Life is like that isn’t it, sometimes you feel on top of the world, the next moment you feel like you’re in the dumps. I lead a very simple quiet life, just the way I like it. I don’t even have a TV (by choice)! But from time to time (like all normal mortals), I can’t help but feel annoyed, upset, angry or sad. Dealing with people is never easy. Sometimes I just feel like shouting out, ‘Please folks, just leave me be!’ No wonder many wise ones throughout history chose to hide and meditate in the sticks far away from it all, stress free!!!

Well, shall we escape for a while then? Follow us on our nature outing during our recent Scotland trip. I took my 4 children on this lovely trail at a place called Inverawe. My children love pretending getting lost in the woods, they would walk fast ahead of me just so that I lose sight of them. Children love the thrill of adventure and I must admit I was like that as a child myself. But as a mother my middle name is now WORRY. Even though this forest was safe, my motherly instinct sniffed out for trouble yonder. I need to relax a bit, my hubby always says. I couldn’t agree more! Oh well, time to go out and chill I think, a good friend has invited me out to dinner (ladies night out) and I so look forward to it! I leave you with our nature trail pictures and a beautiful song to go with it. Would you travel 500 miles + 500 miles more to be with the one you love? Oh yes, 6,500 miles to be exact! Now I know where my children got their daring sense of adventure from!!!

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our nature trail began

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my eldest and my youngest leading the way

not that way!

not that way!

further into the woods

further into the woods

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down they went

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let’s slide down!

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over the bridge

my big girl lost track of the rest

my big girl lost track of the rest

they found a little fort

they found a little fort

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they loved it!

their role play continued

explored every corner of the woods

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let’s have a short rest now

this is fun!

this was fun!

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off they went again

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breathtaking

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stay quiet, there’s a deer!

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and a Scottish Highland cow too!

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seek and you shall find peace and beauty!

A Scotland post is not complete without a song by an awesome Scottish band, they take my autumn blues away! Enjoy it! ;)

What is a husband?

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my everlasting gifts to hubby dearest

A husband is a man you really love -

He’s the closest friend you’ll ever have…

His smile can make you smile,

And just being there can cheer you up,

No matter what goes wrong.

A husband is that special man

Who shares your dreams 

And helps them come true.

He gives a special meaning to the word – together.

It really doesn’t matter where we are

Or what we’re doing.

As long as we have each other to share it all.

Now that I’ve come this far

Now I know that happiness goes on,

(That’s where you found me)

I intend to hold you for the longest time!!!

Sweet memories are priceless, I like to preserve them with good old melodies that warm the heart…

let’s cherish!

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People come into your life for a season, a reason or for a LIFETIME…

It takes a long time to grow and old friend…

A true friend loves at all times…

More on friendship! One of my close friends visited me again last weekend, the first time she did so was in year 2009. This is also a friend who goes back a long way, since boarding school when we were 12-13 years old. But we got real close when we lived together along with several others in an apartment after we graduated. We had fun together, but I got bored after a few years and wanted more out of life. That was when I decided to pursue my Masters degree in England. As excited as I was to embark upon a new adventure, I felt really sad in leaving my close friends behind. I still remember when we went out together for the last time, they treated me to a high tea at a hotel. I even found a picture of us together during that outing, you can see how forlorn I looked below. Oh yeah, the friend who just visited is the one sat next to me!

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my close friends and I at my farewell tea party, Kuala Lumpur, 1996

Little did I know my new adventure was to turn into a lifetime one, for I never went back! I got married the following year and posted a wedding photo to each of my friends. I missed them heaps but life got busy, my children came along and the rest is history! But I kept in touch with them via email and we met up every time I returned for holidays. We continued as if we never left each other; we still shared our ups and downs. We’ve seen each other through tears and smiles, we know each personality that’s made us either happy or sad. We don’t judge each other, we advise and discuss matters together. These are the friends that I can call up at 3 o’clock in the morning, or who’s called me up at some ridiculous hour because we needed a woman to hear us out. I feel very blessed, Alhamdulillah, they are still in my life today. With the advancement of technology, I now chat with them almost everyday! I feel cherished because these friends still seek and value my friendship over 4 decades! Although we meet new people in our lives, not all remain close for whatever reason. I honestly believe that as we get older, the most meaningful friendships are those that have lasted the test of time.

 

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with my close friend who visited me last weekend!

Although we look different now (we have all put on at least 20 kgs each!), we still see and treat each other as the teenagers we once were. It’s funny that, but it’s true! Somehow we can’t seem to erase that mental image we have of each other! Anyway, I just want to say thank you to all my close friends, including the rest who are not in the pictures I’ve posted on my blog so far. Thank you for keeping in touch all these years I’ve been in England. It means a whole lot to me! Let’s cherish our friendship and love forever with this song below which used to be our favourite back in the mid-80s! ;)

Cherish the love, cherish the life! Specially dedicated to those who continue to visit me in my humble home…

autumn music

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Simple pleasures are life’s greatest treasures…

You can have everything and still be miserable. Or you can have relatively little and feel very rich. Happiness is a state of mind. Develop tools for how to get it…

Live simply. Love generously. Deepest joy is like a flower, beautiful in essence…

Greetings again! Autumn is here, my favourite season! There is something melancholy about Autumn, I ponder and reflect more on life and people around me at this time of the year. We live in an age where leading a simple quiet life is frowned upon. It’s totally uncool and boring. It seems everyone’s competing to show off their latest assets, where does it end, I wonder? You will always be chasing after the next best thing, just because some other person will have something better. There will always be people in higher position than you, it’s best to count your blessings and be content with what little you have. Real happiness comes from appreciating the simple pleasures in life, like being out in nature. True happiness comes from establishing real connections with people whom you love and who genuinely love you in return. I emphasis on these themes throughout my blog, from the very beginning. And I shall continue to do so!

One of my close friends is in the UK at the moment, she’s just been touring Europe with her family. She shared with me some awesome photos. When I asked her whether she was going to share it on her social media, she said whatever for? It’s sufficient for her nearest and dearest to see the pictures. Hmm, I guess it all boils down to one’s intention at the end of the day. As long as it’s not to brag, or to compete with the Joneses, I think one should be okay. Otherwise one will never be happy, always looking for ways to outdo others! This is especially so for the younger generation of today, which is why I stress on my principles in raising my children. It’s the people that matter; the feelings you share, the way you treat each other, I constantly say. Material stuff has its place, certainly not for show! Even a simple wildflower posy is good enough if it’s given with lots of love!

Anyway, enough chattering, I must be off. After a gloomy start to the week, I’m getting rather busy. We will be celebrating Eidul Adha on Saturday here in the UK, I shall be cooking Rick Stein’s chicken biryani, InshaAllah. I have posted about it before, it’s tried and tested! I normally cook lamb biryani, but since I will be cooking a huge pot of Qurbani lamb on Sunday (for my close friend I mentioned earlier, yes, she will be visiting me!), I have to prepare something else! I would like to take this opportunity to wish all Muslims Eid Mubarak, hope you will have a lovely day, wherever you may be! To the rest of my readers, I hope you will like my few Autumn pictures below, along with the beautiful Autumn music!

Note to self: Children will not remember you for the material things you provided, they will remember you for the feeling that you cherished them…

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my youngest with her dearest friend

my youngest daughter and her best friend enjoying the simple pleasures in life

Eid Mubarak!

 

i’m on my way!

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Mothers hold their children’s hands for a short while, but their hearts forever…

We never know the love of the parent until we become parents ourselves…

The most precious jewels you’ll ever have around your neck are the arms of your children…

Greetings folks! I’m still on high from last night’s event, which was my son’s high school music concert. They usually hold their annual Inter-House Music competition at this time of the year (early Autumn), just a few weeks after the new school year commences. I took my big daughter and my middle daughter with me; my youngest girl just wanted to stay home with her papa as she can get a bit overwhelmed at public functions.

Concerts at my son’s grammar school are usually major events, 1000 tickets sold out in no time over the 2 day performance! We just about managed to get tickets. My son participated once before when he was in his first year, at that time they sang ‘Hey Jude’ by The Beatles. Since this is my son’s final year at his grammar school (Inshallah if he does well in his GCSE exams he will remain there for his A-Levels), he’s decided to take part in the competition once again. It’s a nice way for him to relax and have a bit of fun with his mates before they get all serious preparing for their major exam.

The overall show was really great, as ever. They always put on the best of shows, year after year. My son sang in the boys’ choir for his House, this year they performed a medley of songs by the Scottish group The Proclaimers. I’m familiar with their song ‘500 miles’ but I don’t think I’ve heard any of their other songs properly before. This particular song ‘I’m On My Way’ was the final one they sang and it was so good they received lots of applause and cheers at the end!

Anyway, I just wanted to remember last night and how I felt and the love for my children here in this entry. They are growing up real fast, wasn’t it only yesterday when I was carrying them in my arms? Just like the song, they are well on their way…becoming their own person, developing their own personalities. As a mother, I’m very proud of them all, and I shall continue to support and guide them in whatever path they choose to lead. To be wholesome human beings; with respect and tolerance for others, to strive for excellence in whatever they pursue. Right, enough chattering yeah, hope you’ll enjoy the song my son sang below, I love it! Have a fab weekend! :)

when they were babies: my son, my big girl and my middle daughter

when they were babies: my son, my big girl and my middle daughter

my son, a young man now! my daughters at their brother’s show last nite!

I’m on my way, from misery to happiness today…Enjoy the song! ;)