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winter blessings

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Whoa! A few weeks have gone by! Apologies for the rather long silence. I was hoping to blog fortnightly at least, since once a week seems almost impossible somehow. But looks like I can’t even manage that! I don’t know what it is, but the weather certainly doesn’t help at all. Winter seems endless this time around, I truly miss the sensation of warm bright sunshine on my skin! I know I’m guilty of complaining it’s too hot each time I return to my homeland Malaysia these days. But in reality I don’t really like the cold, my family and I have been down with one bug after another since December. What can I do to hurry Spring along a bit? Winter also makes me a tad miserable than usual, being in darkness most of the time doesn’t help. Can’t wait for the longer days to come again, I miss going out and about in broad daylight. I miss being out in my little garden (there’s not much life out there at the moment)!

Enough whinging, I guess I just have to be patient a little longer. Spring will dawn upon us before I know it, Inshallah. In the meantime I just have to keep busy with running my household as usual! Amongst the highs there’s also the setbacks that we face time and again of course, such is life. But as long as you have your loved ones, there’s nothing you can’t handle really. For me it’s my beloved husband, my dearest mom, both my younger sisters, my newly acquired brother in law (he’s a real gem) and several trusted friends. No matter what, I know they will always be there for me. For that I’m ever so grateful, Alhamdulillah! That’s all one needs at my age really. To know that there’s always a circle of people I can turn to. And my 4 children of course! They often give me headaches (all mothers can relate to this) with their antics but they are also without a doubt my very source of happiness.

I don’t like being miserable, no one does really. I want to count my blessings, not dwell on my misfortunes. I want to cherish those who are there for my little family and I, life is just too short. Sometimes you don’t realise who’s truly there for you until something eventful occurs. That’s when relationships are tested. That’s when people’s true colours emerge. Winter is certainly a time of reflection for me, I could go on and on! But enough rambling for now, I want to focus on being happy. You could say that’s my hope for this New Year. Life’s too short to be anything but happy! So good vibes from now on, I shall keep smiling and relate to those who bring out the best in me. I should take a leaf out of my friend’s book really. An old friend from my boarding school was in England for a visit, felt honoured when she took the trouble to see me! She’s just as sweet and bubbly as she used to be, laughing away at the end of each sentence she utters. I wish I was more like her!

I was struggling a little to find an appropriate title for this post, but finally settled on ‘Winter Blessings’. My old school friend who is terminally ill is in great pain at the moment, but she is still smiling and grateful for each and every day she has left. I should take heed; focus on my blessings and my loved ones, and be grateful for the chance and time to love and be loved. Despite all the suffering, injustice and evil around us, love still makes the world go round. I’m a great believer of true love, why, I travelled thousands of miles looking for it! I don’t settle for anything less. Celebrate love, no matter how small the gesture. Trust me, the outcome is always GREAT.

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Do small things with GREAT LOVE…

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As newlyweds, England 1997

This beautiful song came out in 1996, the year I met my beloved husband in England. I shall never forget how it made me feel. Euphoria! I had the soundtrack from the movie “One Fine Day” blaring away in our racing green car the day after our wedding. This song in particular I played over and over again. I dedicate this to you my dearest sweetheart! Meeting you was fate, becoming your friend was a choice but falling in love with you I had no control over. It was a huge blessing…❤

 

november thoughts

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I hope I can be the Autumn leaf, who looked at the sky and lived. And when it was time to leave, gracefully it knew life was a gift. — Dodinsky

Greetings all! It’s been a while, hasn’t it? I hope everyone’s doing well, wherever you may be. A lot has been happening in my little world, Alhamdulillah, mainly good stuff. But life is neither perfect nor all the time rosy, we’ve had our share of downs too. Nothing that cannot be dealt with though, as hurtful as it was at that moment in time. Life goes on, people move on, no point pondering over issues beyond our control and stay miserable. There’s so much in life to experience and explore, there’s many good people out there we can relate to. Always focus on the positive. Away with the negativity in life which saps your energy away!

As mentioned in my previous post, I am now more active on Instagram, like many bloggers before me. My main reason for switching my online presence mode is time factor of course. My 4 children are all growing fast now, I have to cater to their different needs. My duties as a wife, mother, home educator and homemaker seem endless these days. So much easier to update what’s happening in picture form, with an accompanying sentence or two! But I miss blogging to be honest, so occasionally you shall find me chattering away here like usual!

This is my 19th year in England; 18 years as a wife and 16 years as a mother. The first year, I was here as a postgraduate student. I have certainly come a long way. As time passes by I feel more comfortable in my own skin. I no longer feel like I have to be someone else in order to fit in. I have now learnt that I can only be myself at the end of the day. That’s when I’m happiest. My hubby sometimes says that I’m too serious. My younger self wasn’t like that, I used to laugh a lot. As we age, we change, hopefully for the better. But it’s nice to remain our old selves too. Positive changes are always welcome, it’s very enriching to adapt different cultures and backgrounds into our own. But I hope to rediscover more of my old self too in the process. I need both the old me and the new me to become a more wholesome person, I want to continue to sparkle, Inshallah!

I leave you with several recent Autumn pictures and a relaxing Autumn music. Do enjoy them. Autumn remains my favourite season, always. So serene and beautiful despite the cold and gloom. Till next time, Au Revoir!

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my middle daughter writing a story at the local farm during her younger sister’s pony riding session

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My younger two enjoying Autumn!

My younger two enjoying Autumn!

fresh hopes

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Simplicity in life is part of faith. —  Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)

There is no greatness where there is not simplicity, goodness, and truth. Leo Tolstoy

Live simply so that others may simply live. — Mahatma Gandhi

Simple pleasures are the last healthy refuge in a complex world. — Oscar Wilde

I have just three things to teach: simplicity, patience, compassion. These three are your greatest treasures. — Lao Tzu

I see myself as a child all over again in my adventurous daughter

She was oblivious to the world around her, deep in thought, as she gazed across the waters. The new year 2013 is here, but she has mixed feelings about it. She has a few reasons to be joyful already, all the blogging awards she received recently have certainly perked her up. Along with being featured in the local newspaper back in her homeland (an article expanded from one of her 102 blog posts), that has certainly made the beginning of 2013 a promising one for her. Little rewards to remind her that she’s doing reasonably well in what she loves doing best at the moment, Alhamdulillah. Yes, she has found her feet again in the literary world, the world she once knew but have abandoned for so long. Yet, she can’t help but feel a bit low at the same time. Call her a sensitive soul if you must (a much-needed characteristic in expressing one’s self), but the tragic events towards the end of 2012 have left an impact upon her.

She hopes and prays that 2013 will be a brighter year, with more uplifting news around the globe rather than heart-wrenching ones. But then that’s life; there’s always ups and downs, good and bad, delight and sorrow. The main thing is not to lose hope, to carry on, to do what you must, to stick to what you believe. Her aspirations for this year is to live simply, to be grateful for every little happiness that comes her way, to appreciate everyone and everything around her that lifts her spirits up. Another year older, another year wiser, as she also celebrates her birthday this month. That’s what she wishes for, all being well. Happy New Year 2013 to all; beloved family, relatives, friends, fellow bloggers and blog readers, may you have a fruitful and peaceful year ahead…

A great English voice, for those who might also need a bit of cheering up to kick off the new year!

And you may find somebody kind to help and understand you
Someone who is just like you and needs a gentle hand
To guide them along so maybe I’ll see you there
We can forget all our troubles, forget all our cares…