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welcome 2017

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welcome 2017 words on spring note book

Greetings everyone! This feels kind of weird, me getting back to my blogging world after a whole year’s break! I have to take baby steps I suppose, hopefully in time I’ll get the hang of it once more. I miss writing down my thoughts and feelings like I used to. As a result I crammed everything in my 2016 diary! But this time around I think I’ll not post countless of pictures to accompany them. Instagram is a better platform for that! So you’ll have to bear with my writing here more than anything else.

Plenty has happened to my family and I within a year, both good and bad. But such is life, as humans we amble along and make the best of whatever comes our way. Some things are beyond our control, we just have to live by it. No matter how awfully painful. Like the death of a loved one for instance. But other circumstances like dealing with annoying or difficult people, those who constantly try to bring you down, or those who don’t really hear what you’re saying, is more manageable (but challenging) I think. It’s well within your power to handle the situation the way you think best. What would you do? Easier said than done though sometimes. Depends on your relationship with that person. I used to be tolerant of such people who surround my life, but of late, I’ve had quite enough. Maybe I’m getting older and wiser, or perhaps I’m just tired of it all.

But then the more pure hearted you are, the more likely you are to get hurt. There are people out there who use you sometimes (intentionally or unintentionally), they don’t really care how you feel inside. We lead such busy lives these days, who has time for that sensitive soul? Nope, they don’t care at all. So let it be. You can either choose to get hurt each time, or move on. I say let’s get a move on! Life is so short after all. Close that door firmly behind you, look ahead. There must be others who love you unconditionally, no matter how imperfect you are. There are those who choose to close their eyes to your flaws and recognise your worth. There are genuine people who’s always there for you, both in good times and bad times. Focus on those beautiful souls. They are the ones who make life worth living…

I usually end with a song! This one is in memory of a remarkable singer who shaped my teenage years. Somehow this song also sums up this debut post of mine for 2017. Wishing all my readers and followers a Happy New Year 2017, may it bring you more sunshine than rain. But if it does rain a lot, get that umbrella handy!

good tidings

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Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts Winston Churchill

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired and success achieved Helen Keller

SO PROUD OF MY LITTLE SISTER’S ACHIEVEMENT! MANY CONGRATULATIONS FROM US HERE! ❤

nana masters degree

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my youngest sister, with her thesis in hand

a real bouquet

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A Real Bouquet
Author Unknown

Everybody has two eyes
Bright as stars they shine
But their color may not be
Just the same as mine.

Brown or blue, gray or green
What difference does it make?
As long as you can see the sun
Shining when you wake

Some folks’ hair is very black
Some have blonde or brown
Whatever color it may be
It’s a pretty crown

Flowers have so many shades
And I’m sure you know
Many lovely gardens
Where such flowers grow

Children in this great big world
Are flowers in a way
Some are light, some are dark
Like a real bouquet

Did you ever stop to think
How awful it would be
If everybody looked the same
Who would know you from me?

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my youngest with her friend at the farm yesterday

they are of the same age and get along really well; children focus on their similarities, not their differences

they love being outdoors, enjoying the Spring sunshine

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my pretty wildflowers, they are the real bouquet of this world!

Enjoy this beautiful Spring song, it’s so lovely now that this magical season is finally here! 

 

february gloom

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Greetings again everyone! Are we still in wintry, grey February, by any chance? It is the shortest month in the year, but here in England, it seems like the longest month ever! Because Spring is round the corner (supposedly), most people here just want February to end quickly and make way to the warmer, colourful March. But such is not the case of course. February lingers on, like an annoying relative who just wouldn’t leave (just an expression, I don’t have any annoying relatives, at least, I don’t think so anyway). Oh well, you just have to find some clever ways to beat the gloom I suppose!

my son, a picture of permanent gloom, can't wait for his GCSEs to be over!

my son, a picture of permanent gloom, can’t wait for his GCSE exams to be over!

As for me, I decided to join a weekly evening yoga class (set up for women in the community). I just can’t tell you how good it felt afterwards. It’s just the thing for me right now, I love it. Having some time to yourself is extremely crucial for busy moms like me. As a home educator, I always have my children with me. Therefore it is necessary to create some ‘me’ time to avoid feeling ‘burnt out’. Apart from that, I also had the opportunity to attend the local inter-faith gathering this month (my hubby’s an active participant). It has certainly broaden my horizon in many ways, meeting many lovely people from different backgrounds but with one common goal. The aim is to foster greater peace, understanding and equality in our global society. I felt rather overwhelmed when a couple of them approached me to have a chat, they knew I was my hubby’s other half. My hubby ensured I was introduced to several of them. I hope to attend such gatherings more regularly now. I feel that it’s important to make a difference in any small meaningful way I possibly can, especially in today’s complex world, seemingly full of hatred and violence. These great words of the famous Sufi poet Rumi struck me:

Beyond our ideas of right doing and wrong doing,

There is a field. I’ll meet you there. 

When the soul lies down in that grass,

The world is too full to talk about.

Ideas, languages, even the phrase ‘each other’ 

don’t make sense any more.

My older two when small, at peace. I wonder what sort of world their future holds

My older two when small, at peace. I wonder what sort of world their future holds

I continue to home educate the younger two now that the older two are at secondary level

I continue to home educate the younger two now that the older two are at secondary level

All that aside, delicious food almost always cheer us up of course! As mentioned before, I’m not a food blogger, I don’t make it a habit to display what I cook daily. But from time to time, I guess I don’t quite mind sharing a few dishes. I cook a variety of food; mainly Indian and Western. I don’t really cook Malay cuisines that much anymore, even though I used to love them a lot. These days my big daughter is in the kitchen too; she loves baking cakes, desserts and making her very own home-made ice-creams. I’m not one for sweet dishes much, I wasn’t raised that way. We tend to focus solely on the main meal usually! But my hubby has a sweet tooth, just like the majority of the British people. So I guess it’s good that his big daughter loves preparing the last course! Okay folks, I have to end my chattering here. Hope to see you again in March, all being well! In the meantime, I shall be patient as I hang on to the last few days of February with this quote:

No winter lasts forever; no spring skips its turn. Hal Borland

my big daughter, loves her books (like the rest) and preparing sweet treats!

my big daughter, loves her books (like the rest) and preparing sweet treats!

feb food

my curry spice pot, lamb bhuna; my big daughter’s butterfly cupcakes, raspberry tart

someone to love

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They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world:

someone to love, something to do, something to hope for. Tom Bodett

Greetings everyone! I came across this headline in The Independent newspaper today, ‘Loneliness a major problem in England.’ Hmm, what can I say, a very sad predicament indeed. In this day and age, when people seem to have everything, yet there are many out there who are lonely. I think it only emphasises that money can’t buy you happiness. Material things only give you instant gratification. Happiness comes from being with others. So what about the 24/7 connection you have with others then? We live in an age of high technology, we are all connected to everyone we ever knew as well as strangers. How can one still be lonely with thousands of ‘friends’ out there? Because those people do not really matter to you. They are not there for you in your ‘real’ life. At the end of the day, in your daily existence, you need someone to love, you need someone by your side. You need a family of your own. This is part of our human makeup that cannot be denied or substituted. No point saying, I’m fine on my own! When you get to a certain age, you feel the need to settle down with that special someone. Every normal living mortal will have that urge.

me in the early days of marriage

me in the early days of marriage

Memories of my own strong feelings to settle down suddenly came flooding back. Two decades have passed by, but I still remember it all. I was alone in a foreign land, pursuing my Masters program. I was to proceed with a PhD afterwards then return to Malaysia to teach at my alma mater. But I couldn’t resist this strong inclination to accept the marriage proposal from this wonderful man who is now my husband. Should I have refused him then, perhaps finished all my studies first? Would he have waited for me? That’s not even the point though, I really felt I should tie the knot at that moment in time, I was truly ready. It felt right. Like a jigsaw puzzle, suddenly all the pieces fitted well together. I knew marriage was the best thing for me. Nothing else mattered. Call me self-centred if you wish, but I knew I was embarking upon a lifetime journey, a new episode in my life. There was no turning back. And he wasn’t ‘foreign’, he was perfect for me! It felt so good and I was over the moon when my parents finally gave me their blessings. They flew to London with both my sisters to attend the wedding, Alhamdulillah! The loneliness deep within me disappeared, I then felt complete.

my hubby, the 'foreigner' who stole my heart

my hubby, the ‘foreigner’ who stole my heart

All that seemed like a lifetime ago. Our son came along two years later, followed by our 3 daughters. I now have 4 other versions of my hubby and myself! My youngest is almost 6 now, where has the time gone? My son was just reminding me the other day that he will be off to University in a couple of years, all being well. I can’t believe it somehow. Seems only yesterday my late father was cradling him in his arms! Time goes by so quickly sometimes, it’s a bit daunting. But what keeps us going is that someone to love, who’s always there for you, no matter what. How do you find that someone? By being a special someone yourself, worthy of someone’s love and attention for the rest of their life. It doesn’t really matter if you found that person yourself, or arranged through family, as the norm with many Asian Indo-Pak families here in England. It’s your intention that matters. If you want your marriage to work, you will do what it takes to keep it going. Both parties have to give their best. Sacrifice, commitment, loyalty, some common words in your married life. Too much for you? Back to the headlines then, the dreaded word ‘loneliness’. I knew I didn’t want to stay on that path…

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no selfie yet at the time, just our camera on self-timer!

I fell in love with this song about the time I met my husband, I used to think how beautiful the lyrics were.